My sister in law finally got the papers, her and my brother are now legally divorced after over 8 years of marriage.
Well, what can I say? He's an asshole lol.
His say's he doesn't want to be miserable for the next twenty years, far enough... If you ask me they had enough years before hand for him to figure that one out. So after moving *both* of them into his best [also female] friends place he threw her out flat a month later. Which means Ma is stuck on the couch because they gave up the apartment first :\.
I remember when we first heard they were moving in there, Ma threw them both out of the house instantly. Everyone knew it was going to be a bad idea but my Sister [in-law] was willing to try and make things work, my Brother OTOH wasn't.
And now they are going to soon be three-way arguing over the photo album with my Mother leading the charge from the sounds of things. I know better then to get involved, even if my "neutral as Switzerland" approach to family wars is often disregarded by all participants... I do hope he gets to keep some of the pictures, for Pete's sake. I doubt he should get much more then the car personally (it's in her name, not his) but how could you argue over the photo album !?
What can I say.. My family is the kind that cuts deep, then sucks out the blood. That's the world in which I live. A scene comes to mind, I saw the end of "From Dusk Till Dawn" last week when I was waiting for the next movie to start. In the end battle some one was being chewed on by about ten or twelve vampires... That is what comes to my mind.
I some times wonder what branch I came from because that is not my way. I only intentionally return in kind when I know nothing else will bring them to relent'ment. My ability for anger is limited to all of the about 10 seconds it takes for me to calm down. Unlike my family, I learned to control my temper quite well and to deal with it without hurting others. No wonder we're known for loud mouths and hot heads so to speak lol.
It's a shame but it's his life, when the other woman bleeds him dry I guess he'll learn better. I remember when I was a child, I used to count the periods of family in-fighting by 'world war' starting with IV, lost count many years back around IX or so.
Do we begin to dissolve bit by bit? Or is it just another fragment in a long war.
Some times I wonder if I honestly care any more.
I don't think that GOD made people this way, we learned it on our own. As the world around us damages us bit by bit, they don't know any better. So they cut the other deeply with the words, and suck dry the blood that flows.
I know if I ever get out of here, I pray to look back at it as a memory and nothing more. I don't want to bring that mentality to a new generation... I'm not like the rest of my family but they are still my family, each of them and I love them.